Troubled young girl ... need advice?

My 14 yr old cousin has always been a cow who thinks she knows better than everybody else n bossed every one around from wen she could talk..her mom and dad split up good few yrs ago and she lived with her mother but saw her dad at weekends .. nov last year her mom died out of the blue and my cousin moved in with her dad (my uncle) they dont have much of a relationship she is so rude to him swears at him dont listen to him (done it b4 her mother died too).... 4 days ago she turned up at my sisters sayin her dad beat her up ... she says he punched her to the floor and started kickin her .. wen my mom rang my uncle up to ask what went on he sed yes he lost his tempa but he jst slaped her round the face.. she has spent 3 days at my sisters beggin not to go home...my uncle sayin to my mom that he cant cope with her any more but he not doin nothing about it..she sayin she wants to go into care..he doin f*** all and no one else in the fam r helpin .. what do u think i should do?Troubled young girl ... need advice?
you have to take her in its what family does. at least tell this boils over. not that any girl diserves to get hit but she sounds like she had it coming. as a father of a 9yr old id be damned if i let my daughter back talk me let alone cuse me. you need to tell her to back off and respect her father more.Troubled young girl ... need advice?
See if your mom can take her in, and get help for this girl because she is a angry child that need professional help asap.
She needs to see how a real family functions; maybe you can serve as example and show her how things fit.


Well her father is right to some extent and if he doesn't teach her to respect others now, it will never work. When I was a teenager, I used to be terrible but my dad taught me to toe the line usually through beating, it worked and I am thankful now. It might not work for others.


Also check out the people she is involved with; friends, etc.
the two of them need to sit down and talk through their differences. her teenage angst isnt helping the situation. not quite sure how you get them to both behave like adults.
i dont think its your problem but i think they should all sit down quietly and have a talk about it and maybe if both of them changed it would be for the better
you should take in your cousin and talk 2 ur uncle over the fone
Your cousin is only 14 and she is still grieving for her mum. Grief affects people in different ways and as she is only a kid herself she probably doesn't understand the feelings. Of course she is angry and upset....she's lost her mum! She sounds like she could do with seeing a Grief Councillor to help her understand her feelings. How do you think she will be feeling coz she has all these family members who won't or can't provide a home for her and it must be difficult for her with her not having had a good relationship in the past with her dad. She probably feels that no-one loves her and the only person who did has gone.


You are all trying to put adult decisions onto a child. Remember she is only 14 and despite you thinking she has always been ';a cow'; this is no reason for everyone in the family to be like they are with her.


It might be a good idea for her to go into the care of Social Services for a while and try to build a relationship with her father through that avenue. It will be possible for her to get on better with her dad but they both sound like they need help from someone who is not emotionally involved in the situation. She would probably be better in a Foster Family situation rather than a Childrens Home.


If you aren't prepared to try to see how she must be feeling and if all you can do is criticise her then perhaps you would be better staying out of it. Imagine if you can, how would you have felt and behaved if you had lost your mum at the age of 14 yrs....would you have been a bundle of joy or would your behaviour have been the same?!