I need a girl's advice.?

There is this girl and as everyone knows valentines day is coming up..i really like her and i have no problem with talking to girls but im single and so is she. The only problem is she had this friend i used to talk to but we never went together but we did have sex and me and her are just like friends though. She says she doesnt want to talk to me because i had sex with her friend but it was just a one night stand thing. I really like her and i want to take her out for valentines day but not only that i want her to be my girlfriend ya know. But its hard because i know how girls are about their friends but it was nothing serious between me and her friend and we didnt even go out and we dont really even talk as much and when we do talk we arent talkin about us. I need advice, tips, or something to let her know im serious about her and that its nothing like a game or anything. I told her how i felt and everything but its like she wont let up because of that friend stuff.I need a girl's advice.?
Ok I can totally understand why this girl is acting like this she believes you are a player!


Furthermore, that you will play around with her and then leave furthermore her friend may not be chatting to you nevertheless I think her friend has said to her that you are not the type of person that wants something serious the girl may like you however she is just being extremely careful because of what people have said about you in the past so what I would do is start basic with her do not rush her because you have to see it like this you might have seen it as a one night stand with her friend but woman never forget these things and they we make sure that there friends well know furthermore they will make big stores up because they don鈥檛 like being used they we say that this guy is a player!!! Therefore, what I would do is stop talking to her and start proving them wrong! First of all send her flowers and put a nice card in there telling her that you are serious about her as well as that you respect her and that you would never do anything to make her feel offend in any way Also, tell her that you are sorry that things did not go good with her friend and that you did not mean to cause offense to her or her friend and that you would never play around with her furthermore make it clear that you want to prove to her that you are a good man and ask her to just think about going on a date with you also tell her that it can be a group date if she doesn鈥檛 feel happy coming on her own just show her that you are not going to make her feel withdrawn or do anything that would hurt her that way she well see that you are proving everyone wrong!!!! and that you are not playing with her feelings also just say that you know that things haven鈥檛 gone well but you want her to see what you are really like for her self furthermore ask her to give you a chances because you feel that no one has seen your side of the story and tell her that if she did go out with you and furthermore if she didn鈥檛 like it then you would never ask her again see what happens ok I hope that helps! I just think she is worried because of every one she well always take her friend side it is just the way things are! However, do not let it get to You鈥?prove them Wrong!!!!!!!!!! and make it clear that you are not trying to break her friendship in any way!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!I need a girl's advice.?
Uuuhhhhhhhh....I wouldn't want to date a guy who had sex w/ my friend. Sorry...but it's the truth, you'll just have to really prove it to her and wait.
you had sex with her friend...tut tut
Well heres an idea and it is totally crazy but it just might work - talk to the girl you slept with first - she might not only have ideas actually, but if she thinks it is ancient history like you do, it will only help in what you are trying to do. If she cant come up with anything good for you to do, then write this Valentine of yours a poem or letter or something and then have the ';friend'; girl actually deliver it saying ';he wanted me to give this to you, and he really likes you'; - this not only says that you (and her) are super over the past, but that of course you really are into her and are willing to take risks - also at the end of the note or letter or whatever when you ask her to be your Valentine, you can say exactly that ';the past is the past and I really want to show you that I am willing to take risks, are you?'; - plus you get the added bonus of keeping the other chick as your friend and also seeming like a completely different guy in her eyes while totally flattering her.
Haven sex wt her friend just mean u have to work 2 winning her heart 2wice as much as u wud 4 any other grl maybe 3 times harder....try 2 explain to her that u and her friend is over no feelings wat so ever....and shes the 1 u want to pursue and maybe spend ur life wt....and wen u tell her this look n2 her eyes and say it like u mean it....bring her flowers and candy and throw n a card and a teddy bear....and tried 2 give her,her favorites....favorite colored flowers,favorite candy...etc u no....GOOD LUCK!!!!!
sucks 2 b u....my advice no more 1 night stands buddy.
Well...it is kinda awkward for a girl to be dating a guy who she knows had sex with one of her friends. Us girls (some of us) don't like to think about our men with any other women and friends top the list..she might know herself well enough to know that she won't be able to get that little fact out of her head and it'll drive her crazy or Maybe she knows that her friend likes you more than you think and she doesn't want to hurt her.


Just be romantically persistent not stalker-ish though..lol...Maybe ask her if you having had sex with one of her friends is the ONLY reason she won't date you...see what she says to that :o)
She has made it clear that she doesn't want to date you so you need to respect her feelings and leave her alone.
Like you said... you know how girls are about their friends, so you should not get your hopes up....I dont really have any advice about that, but if things end up good and you guys do get together then be prepaired to not talk to her friend as much... because that will always be on your girls mind. And eventhough you know its nothing it something that is always going to be in the back of her head. I was in a relationship where that happend and i always thought what if it was more then just sex... ya konw?


good Luck!
oooo shes jealous...thats a rough spot my friend
I GUESS YOU GOT TO GET OVER IT....IT MIGHT BE WORTH IT.
It seems like the only thing you haven't tried is talking to the other girl -- your crush's friend. If you make it clear to HER that it wasn't anything too serious, then maybe she will talk to the girl you like and straighten things out. Usually that's how girls break that friends barrier. If it's okay with the girl you had sex with, then she can probably convince her friend that it was okay.





On the other hand, if you keep going after the girl you like for awhile and just keep telling her how serious you are, she'll probably start to believe you because you won't give up so easily. That is, if you like her that much.





Oh, and your crush MIGHT think that she will turn into another one-night stand, so she might be afraid of that also. So definitely make it clear to her that sex isn't what you're after. Err...hopefully it isn't.





So yeah, as for the friends thing, just talk to the other girl!





Good luck! Hope everything works out the way you want it to. =]
its always hard because girls tell everything to eachother you know and as a friend she is like having the seconds you know what i mean its like ur friend had the girl and now u have her its been around. now maybe she thinks that you might screw her over so you should take the time dont let valentines be the reason why u aske her out the date is just a date valentine is celbretated everyday with couples that reakky care and the 14 is just a day were america makes money. but any who stick around be persistent show her your side , your through feelings and then maybe just she will give in and if not then maybe she is not the one and you need to look else where but dont worry i have my fingers cross for you!!!! good luck
Since she already has trust issues in this situation, having a relationship with her might be even harder. I think your best bet is to recognize verbally to her that she is uneasy with you in a romantic way and ask if you could do something as friends.


I have found that the only way to earn trust is through slow and gentle actions... and even then, some people just will not trust you, so you have to cut your losses and concentrate on someone who will appreciate your affections.
Dude she thinks you are trying to do the same thing to her is her problem not yours but if you want to hit that let me tell you one thing seduce her in phone real nice no perv ok women fall in love trew ther ear in otherwords sweet talk to her no fake stuff thoe real man suduction patients persistance positive mental attitude and passion in doing all of this
well u may have been clear about it just being a pure sexual thing how ever the other chick who u were just sleeping with may have had a more deep thinking about ur little ';flings'; with her. Most chicks make up the whole ';friends with benefitz'; thing wen really they want to be more than ';just friends with benefits'; but do it purely on the fact it would make you happy and maybe closen ur and hers relationship. This other girl that u really want coudlve seen u as a dog for doing that to her somewhat of a close mate but for being even more of a dog for sleeping with her and without any feelings i men trust me girls well some find sex to be something special and to be take seriously and something more than just fun. or she just doesnt like the fact that u routed her mate. Like she would probably get the sudden feeling of LEFT OVERS lol i know i would. just try and be a sweet guy and plan suprises on valentines day or something more affective like planning little suprises leading up to valentines day where you would be doing something like over the top sweet. Show her that you wont give up and are willing to do anything for her to make your relationship work. well god luck and i hope i helped
write her a letter (if she wont hear you out in person) explaining that the thing w/her friend just sorta happened even though it probably shouldnt have ... and even though you think her friend is a very nice person, the two of you just aren't interested in each other in that way. however you do really care about her (not her friend) and are very interested a relationship w/her ... and if she can forgive the incident w/her friend, you think you could make her very happy.
send her flowers.





wirte a note (or even betta a poem)


to tell her that the friend is in the past and didnt matter in teh first place.


tell her how you feel..





%26amp; ask her out on a date.





but make sure you DO NOT talk to the friend..


even if you think she wont find out; she will.





=]


good luck.
if i was that girl i probably wouldn't go out with u either, unless my friend who u slept with told me that u weren't that bad so try to get that girl who u slept with to tell her that it was just a one time thing and that u really like her


chances are that she'll listen to her friend if she puts in a good word for you because now u guys are juss friends right?


and if she does end up going out with u take her to a movie or a good restaurant and don't bring up her friend at all.


GOOD LUCK!!! : )